I’m 12F, and I recently moved to a new city. I made a friend named Sam, and we were really close, but things changed when she started calling another girl, Diva, her "bestie."

I’ve been in situations before where I got replaced, and it triggered those memories. It wasn’t just about feeling jealous—it was about feeling sidelined and hurt, especially after all the time we’d spent together. I felt like Sam was letting someone else take my place.

At one point, I sent her three messages explaining how I felt, but she didn’t open them. She then texted me asking what it was about, and I told her how I was feeling. I expressed that if she chose Diva over me, I wouldn’t help her with exams. I wasn’t trying to manipulate her; I just wanted her to understand that I needed some clarity and respect for our friendship. She said I was pressuring her and it was an ultimatum, but she did eventually say she chose me.

However, I still felt like it wasn’t about our friendship—it felt more like she just needed my help for exams. The next day, she was hanging out with Diva and I pointed it out. She compared me to her “toxic friends” from the past, even though I’d always been the one trying to fix things when they went wrong.

I kept reaching out, even inviting her to play Roblox. She said she’d join, but never came back. I saw her playing a different game with her other friends, but she didn’t even say hi to me. It felt like I was being ignored, and I realized I shouldn’t have to beg for her attention.

I decided to stop chasing her and focus on finding people who treat me with respect. I’m not angry or plotting revenge. I just want a real friend who values me.

I know people called me YTA for the ultimatum, but the way I see it, I wasn’t forcing her to pick between us. I just wanted to set a clear boundary. Am I really in the wrong for doing that? Was it unreasonable to stand up for myself and protect my feelings?