I (23f) Have an 11 month old son who goes to his grandmothers ( my moms) house on fridays and ill pick him up either saturday or sunday depending on what im doing . This started as my moms idea to give me a much needed break . A few months ago , After double and triple checking with her she told me she was able to watch my son, only to call me at 11:00 at night demanding me to pick him up . My mother knows that my son’s father and i do not under any circumstance want our child outside of the house after 6pm ! My son gets very sick very easily , so far he has had rsv & bronchitis back to back and it was absolute torture for him to go through and for me to watch him go through that and not be able to help or make it better was heartbreaking (yes i am a ftm). I pleaded and pleaded with my mom to please let me get him in the morning instead because it was way to late to pick him up . Keep in mind , My son was already sound asleep at her house . She just refused to let him stay the night for some reason . her excuse being she had to go “somewhere really far and no one was going to be home to watch him “ which was a lie , There was 5 OTHER ADULTS IN THE HOUSE who could have kept an eye on him while he slept until she came back home (& my brothers actually confirmed she did NOT go anywhere that night) . We ended up having to pick my son up at 12:30am and not getting back home until 1am . My boyfriend and his family were FURIOUS and they no longer wanted my son to go over to my mom’s . I was able to talk to them and make an excuse for my mom because i didnt want that to happen as this is my mom’s first and currently only grandchild . So after some convincing , the plan was back to normal and my son was back to going to my mother’s on the weekends and everything was going smoothly . Until yesterday — To make an even longer story short , My mom was upset because i stepped out to be with my cousin who just got into a really big physical altercation with her now ex boyfriend . My cousins face was bruised and she had knots on the back of her head , My cousin also has a child , My 3 year old God daughter who is full of energy and had no clue her mom was in so much pain , I decided to take her out to the park and pool so she can let her mom get some rest . Before i entered the pool i called my brother to check on my son . I spoke to my son and brother for about 5 mins before putting the phone down and joining my God daughter in the pool so i can keep a closer eye on her . My mom ended up calling 3 times and i missed all three calls .. 30 mins later i called her back and let her know i took my God daughter to the pool and before i could finish my sentence she hung up in my face , & refused to answer any of my calls . At 9:22 my youngest brother (9m) called me saying mom was demanding me to come get my baby . I at the moment do not have a car due to a car accident , My boyfriend was not home so i had no way to get to him. I heard my mom holler “She can find a ride to go party she can find a way to her son” I pleaded and pleaded and even called my aunt who also tried to talk to her . I knew if i brought him home late again i was never going to hear the end of it with his father and he would have never allowed our son to go back which i really did not want to happen . I called my brothers (21m) who live at home w mom & they both said they did not mind keeping him with them for the night since it was already almost 10pm . My mother REFUSED to let them keep him and demanded me to figure out a way to get him . She didnt want him at the house at all . I didnt find a ride until about 11:45 . I got to my moms by 12:00 and my son was sitting in the car w my brother in front of the neighborhood . My mom did all of this because when she called my phone i did not answer ..

Growing Up my mom used to kick me out of her house pretty much every year when ever i wasnt doing exactly what she wanted . My mother is extremely controlling and has a habit of dangling money and nice things in ur face as a way to get u to do what she wants wen she wants and as soon as u are unable to or dont want to she threatens to take everything back or she tries to guilt trip you into doing what she wants . She is upset because i havent started nursing school yet ( i quit my job to go to school fulltime) but due to the car accident and having very limited transportation i decided to wait until i got a new car to start school , which i dont think is unreasonable … Am i the asshole for telling my mom my son wont be returning to her house ever again ?