📝 AITAH - An exchange between people. Who is the asshole

By Upset-Nectarine-115 • Score: 1 • April 17, 2025 7:31 PM


Which if any is the asshole. I know the content seems silly now but things often do after the fact. Keeping it unbiased so won't reveal which one I am.

Person A: Just seen Warfare. Incredible

Person B: What’s that? The propaganda film? 😂

Person A: The fact you don't know what it is is surprising

Person A: Here's a link. It's right up your street.

Person A: Based on the testimonies of the actual soldiers. Think one of them co directed it too

Person B: I just said it’s the propaganda fillem lid

Person A: I know you want me to ask why you're calling it a propaganda film so just spit it out

Person B: Because it is one? 😂 Also who you think you’re talking to? 😂 I’ll spit you out you spacker

Person A: It absolutely isn't you clown. Watch it before making absurd false statements

Person A: I couldn't be less interested in a tit for tat that ends up pissing us both off. If you have a reason for calling it a propaganda movie other than it just is, id love to hear it. Because if we just don't agree what propaganda actually is then we can save us both some trouble. Likewise if you just think war movies are inherently propaganda

Person B: I don’t, I just saw a trailer and it looked very “USA! USA!”

Person B: I think you’ve taken my comment a bit far, but then it’s met its intended purpose I suppose (albeit I didn’t want to rile you up to this extent)

Person A: That is deeply unfair. You know how I don't want to be on the wrong side of politics and you're the same. Saying "the propaganda film 😂" is more than an attempted rile. I take you at face value when it comes to shit like that. And when I asked you and you said cos it is....

Person A: Anyway, there is literally not a damn thing propaganda about it. Absolutely incredible and unflinching film. Has literally nothing political or propagandist to say. You should see it.

Person A: The trailer was likely for American audiences

Person A: The more I think about it, the more it bugs me. The initial laughing emoji—first shot—implied I was naïve for not seeing it as propaganda. I assumed you had the wrong film, so I linked it. No heat yet. Then you doubled down—same jab, no substance. I cut through it and said “spit it out.” That could’ve been your moment to drop the hook emoji, admit you baited me, and we’d have had a laugh - or maybe id still have been riled but fairly. Instead, you tripled down, called me a spacker 😂, and called it factually propaganda again with no substance. Then when I responded, you laughed and flipped the whole thing—suddenly I’m overreacting. That’s the stitch-up. If I say nothing, I take the hit. If I respond, I’m “too serious.” Either way, you get to feel like you won. That isn't banter or riling, it's just disrespect. To anyone else this would be pointless, but I know you well enough to seriously consider what I'm saying. I feel fucking gaslit 😂

Person B: You need to drop this, you’re overthinking it

Person A: I'm telling you how it was perceived. If you're not willing to analyse your approach then so be it but I've said my piece.

Person B: I called you a spacker because you commanded me to “spit it out”, claiming that I wanted you to ask me why I was calling it a propaganda film, which was false.

Person A: Bollocks, you don't get to say your intent all along was to rile but then also claim you weren't expecting me to bite. You don't get to have your cake and eat it. Your laugh emoji was antagonistic. You were absolutely suggesting I was calling a propagandist film good and therefore I'm naive. I get to respond to that in kind.

Person B: Objection, speculating. I didn’t claim that I wasn’t expecting you to bite, again you’ve forced those words upon me, but the conclusion that you came to isn’t factual, it’s subjective. I expected you to tell me why I’m wrong about it being a propaganda piece, not to ask me why I think it is. You’ve already gotten more out of me on this than I intended so take your little victory and move on, I know that’s all you’re interested in 😂

Person A: You made the bastard claim. I didn't come on suggesting from the outset it wasn't (a propaganda film). You said it was and you needed to substantiate it. Or not and give me the troll emoji after the first bite. Not triple down then post hoc it

Person A: My little victory? I've won fuck all here but to look like an obsessed moron. This is fruitless. You have zero intention of engaging in this in good faith.

Person B: Because you want me to accept your perception and truth, which isn’t going to happen and from the obvious way you feel about this, your position isn’t likely to move either. We’re wasting each other’s time.

Person A: I'm not expecting anything other than for you to put the shoe on the other foot. If you were trolling, there was literally no indication of that until I came to you directly.

Person A: I'll just let it go. I feel gaslit to fuck but I'll let it go. I've already fucking lost face I ain't getting back.

Person B: I put the shoe on the other foot when I said I think you’re taking my comments a little too far, and I still feel that way. I’ve analysed your position and I think you’ve gone way overboard. Nobody in that chat’s mind - mine included - operates the same way yours does, you’ve lost face with nobody, especially not with me.

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