I was in a relationship with a woman whose attitude was full of contradictions and emotional instability. She would often cancel our plans at the last minute and constantly questioned whether I truly loved her, saying I would eventually get tired of her. At times, she pushed me away, suggesting I find someone else, and criticized me for not making enough effort to see her — but when I tried to, she’d come up with excuses, like her room being messy or simply not wanting me there.

Whenever I tried to talk about my feelings or bring up any issue, she would shut down the conversation, often replying: "If you don’t like it, I’ll just leave." She also tried to trigger jealousy, mentioning that people would ask if she was single.

One day, she blocked me on WhatsApp, only to send me a text later saying she missed me. After that, her mother called me, trying to understand what had happened and asking whether I still cared about her daughter. Not long after, my ex reached out, inviting me to her mother’s birthday party. Later on, she sent another message confessing she still loved me and missed me more than she expected, and asked if I wanted to visit her. When I said no, she accused me of abandoning her, saying it was "my choice" and asking if I felt happy with that decision. She claimed she had finally given up on the idea of us getting back together, and told me not to send her any more messages so she wouldn’t create false hopes. She ended by saying I had taken away her happiness and she wanted it back.

Throughout the relationship, her actions were confusing — switching between showing jealousy, creating distance, and making me feel unwanted. Whenever I opened up about my emotions, she would either disappear or act as if my feelings weren’t important. She even suggested I download dating apps, and after we broke up, I found out she was actually using them.

One situation that especially hurt me was when she told me she wouldn’t go to a party, so I decided to go to church instead. But later on, she suddenly changed her mind and went to her friend’s party. When I asked if I could visit her earlier so we could spend time together before the party, she refused. Still, I bought two chocolates for her and waited outside her place. Her sister saw me and invited me in, and during the party, she introduced me to her friends as her boyfriend. But even on that same day, she joked: "Let’s download an app and find you a hot girl."