I’ve (F22) been dating my significant other (M24) for 6 months. We have been getting very serious and I can see a wonderful future with him. We met in college…I was in this bad relationship at the time and then when I was finally single. We together decided to do a FWB thing until we started to really fall for each-other.

It really is a dream. Yes we go back and forth but, it never ever anything I’ve considered leaving him, and still don’t plan to. He asked me about what was good even when I focus on the bad. He supports my dreams of becoming something big and changing the world. Really is a wonderful man and literally is a man of my dreams.

About a week ago, He admitted that he got someone pregnant and she had the baby a week ago. He doesn’t know it’s his yet but it’s highly likely. He said that he knew when we first started to mess around but, she wanted him not to be a dad but just financially support and they got in a fight and he blocked her because she didn’t want him more then a side character in the kids life. Now, She is demanding a paternity test or court. Along with a bunch of other things and he really willing to do it all but just wants to be apart of this baby’s life as a dad if it is his. (As a great dad should be).

He didn’t tell his family recently.

He is genuinely upset because apparently he thought she took the proper precautions when the condom broke [a plan b that he gave her money for].. she agreed to it at the time. (She decided against it and didn’t inform him later after they split ways when I started to really come into the picture.)

A few keys points to remember. This was before our relationship and 9 months ago when we were kind-of talking but we were just flirting and not wanting a relationship.

This is where I think I might be an asshole: I can’t help but be saddened. Be upset. I guess I want him to raise a beautiful baby, but I honestly would have loved it to be mine. I am sadden that his first kid isn’t mine. I want him to be a great dad to mine kids. I am not gonna love this kid any less if we become anymore but when he told me all I could was cry and become numb because I wish I would have known sooner to support him but also mentally prepare that now I am in a relationship with a wonderful man who is a father.

So..AITAH?