So my husband is going to boot camp in a few months and will be making a good amount of money like the down payment of a house kind of money at the end of it all.

We are negotiating the budget for when he is away. I'll use my check to cover most things in our apartment. And then the stuff I can't cover will come from his earnings, so I can keep everything in the apartment good. I will have 60$ a week to spend on my fun things budgeted and he will have a allowance card from the military for whatever he needs. I, also am totally ok with him taking whatever he needs from the extra money as well cause we have no idea what he will need.

The rest though I want to have put into a joint savings account that will be considered both of ours because I figured we could put it to a down payment on a house or into investing or whatever else we negotiate and agree to together. He feels like imma say no to whatever he wants to do with it no matter what he wants to do.

I do have to admit I was nervous about investing money a few years ago especially into crypto currency but I have come around in the last 3 years and tried to reassure him I'm not completely closed off as long as we don't invest something we can't lose. I believe that's where his insecurity comes from.

But his insecurity says that the extra money should be all his to decide what to do with. And I don't think that's fair either. Aitah for wanting the extra money be ours ?