Do you think I committed SA based off this? Or has my anxiety gotten out of control

TW NSFW maybe SA

I had been fondling with my at the time bf, and he was telling me to slow down. I can’t remember if he said it once or twice. But he said (at the time he said to slow down) this was bc he didn’t want to ejaculate in his pants. I thought I was being sexy and teasing and his body language was very aroused, and I kept my pace or maybe even sped up i don’t remember . I thought that since we were having consensual fondling moment it was okay. At the time I didn’t realize I might have been crossing a boundary or breaking consent. From my memory, (this was 3-4 years ago) He wasn’t outwardly mad about it, but a little awkward. But it’s making me feel like I did a horrible thing. I know I crossed a boundary and won’t repeat this behavior whatever it was SA or not. But I wanted others interpretation of my actions as my anxiety often makes me try and paint myself as a villain more than I should. I’m especially scared because I can’t remember if he said slow down TWICE and if I didn’t listen twice… I don’t know if that makes this situation worse. I can’t remember if I did slow down for a few seconds when he said to. I don’t think I did. I don’t know if I kept my pace or if I sped up. I just know it ended with him messing up his pants and I didn’t fully listen to him. If it was the worst case scenario where he said slow down twice and I didn’t listen at all- Do you think that’s SA in this specific scenario where we were having a consensual moment but he set a boundary that I didn’t understand or listen to.

Edit - in response to some comments - Men can still experience SA. I don’t want to pretend like I did nothing wrong. I crossed a boundary and didn’t respect him in that moment. I just don’t know if it reaches the reality of SA or not.