Was exposing him and demanding a personal injury settlement vindictive of me? Seems to have hurt me more than it hurt him.

Him: (34M)

• Got arrested for domestic violence. He went to jail. I didn't press charges, so he skated by.

• He still had to pay me $60K in a personal injury settlement for beating me up. That's $5k per bruise.

• Physically cheated on 9 of his exes. He has no remorse and has justifications for each cheating instance.

• Body count of ~90, mostly drunk, drugged, or 22-year-olds with no idea who he really is.

• Lies to every new girl and says I'm his "crazy stalker ex" so they block me preemptively.

• The public criminal court docket URL got passed around his hometown.

• Is genuinely terrified of being exposed. He's spiraling. DV arrest, restraining order, porn addiction, drug dependency, lies to every girl he meets, got banned from his gym, tried (and failed) to gag me legally. Still stalks me on blind. That's not "moving on." That's panic, paranoia and fear.

• Lost friends once cheating and abuse came out. Turns out being an abuser is a vibe killer.

• Rage monster - used to beat me up when caught in a lie. Anger management? Never met her.

• Lives in a K-hole. Coke, ket, party drugs — like a frat boy who never graduated.

• Surrounds himself with druggie clout goblins. Like, congrats on your hive mind?

• Got expelled from his state school for felony drug dealing. Graduated with a 2.1 GPA.

• Tries to socially climb into Ivy League circles while deeply insecure and terminally mediocre.

• Tried to legally silence me with a gag order. Failed. (His lawyer resigned and refused to rep him after the domestic violence bruise photo evidence came out.)

• Restraining order officially issued against him for domestic violence + stalking me on Blind.

• Got banned from the gym for harassing me.

• Porn addiction + erectile dysfunction + disturbing TikTok follows (yes, it involves minors).

• Obsessed with Asian women to the point of full-on yellow fever, plus uses his own friends' IGs for masturbation content. Venmoed me "apology money" after using his IRL friends IG pics for self-pleasure.

•Sex tourist. Literally hires foreign women abroad to touch him.

• Alcoholic, drug addict, porn addict, erectile dysfunction, and worst of all — thinks he's the victim.

Me:

• Restraining order against him.

• Got $60K payout + gifts every time he got caught lying.

• Had to go on meds and intensive therapy for complex PTSD. Domestic abuse and getting beaten up 5x wrecked me — but didn't destroy me. Random women l've never met blocked me on IG because they believe his "crazy ex" narrative.

• two Ivy League degrees, but still still dumb enough for fall for a pathetic drug addict loser's manipulative lies

• Body count: 3. A 7-year boyfriend, a 3-year fiancé, and one glitch in the matrix (him).

• Currently have five men trying to lock me down. Michelin dinners, Broadway shows, flying me out on nice vacations, but... im too traumatized to commit. I'm not putting out. I'm emotionally shut down and treating suitors like NPCs.

• Random strangers (who I literally do not know or care about at all) think I'm a crazy insane liar and stalker. But some believe me and are wary of him. Some don't and think I'm a psychotic crazy liar.

• I'm sober, bookish, have never done drugs and barely drink.

• Even a year later, a little emotionally wrecked.