Hi, first of all, english isn’t my first language, so sorry in advance for any errors. two months ago, my grandpa (my father’s dad) died, it was really rough and it still is and on top of that, two days ago (on my 19th birthday too…) my other grandpa got diagnosed with cancer, so we’re really tense in the family. some hours ago, my mother said to my father that he should do something to be closer to his mother, that obviously still hasn’t recovered at all from losing her husband. my father works until 6PM every day and doesn’t really have time to be present for his mother (he still visits her every day after work though) but he still tries his very best, but according to my brother and mother, it isn’t enough. i couldn’t help but join the conversation, saying that my father clearly is still recovering too and is facing many difficulties about losing his father, but my brother immediately started screaming at me saying that losing an husband is deeper than losing a father…i really didn’t say anything to make any sort of comparison, i was just trying to say that my father is also struggling along with my grandma and that they’re both trying to recover in their own ways, but it quickly became an heated argument. my brother is really hot headed, so he started screaming at me saying that i’m too young and stupid to understand (he’s 4 years older than me) and that i should shut up because i barely visit my grandma and it’s also my fault that she’s so sad. i already talked about this with my grandma when my grandpa died, and i told her that, for now, i physically can’t stay in her house after what happened (i got diagnosed with depression and anxiety and my emotions are extremely amplified) and she understands and appreciates that i talked to her about this, and of course i call her every day. am i the asshole for stepping in the conversation, mistakenly making it become an heated argument, considering that we’re currently living a really delicate time?