So it’s a usual day at work and without really thinking I went up to this one coworker and asked them if they were together with this girl we worked with. He seemed appalled like he wasn’t expecting that and I just laughed and walked away. (Also I was just trying to start a conversation and the guy worker I had asked has teased me at times and would ask me if I miss this one coworker because he knows this coworker had liked me in the past) It had gotten super busy and I didn’t get my break until super late. When I was on my break I noticed the girl coworker that I had asked about earlier had messaged me on instagram a few hours ago. She was upset and sent a long message asking me why am I asking others for her business and why am I talking about her. And that she doesn’t appreciate it and someone had told her I said she was ‘weird’.

Mind you, I thought I got along with her pretty well… we were doing so good. She would tell me personal stuff about her and I always took it as a sign that she truly likes me and trusts me. She always starts conversations with me and had even recently offered me a ride home. And I really like her and see her as a good friend and person. So seeing her talking to me this certain way was very upsetting and I felt like she thought I had ill intentions of her. I’m not exactly sure what she was talking about with me thinking she’s weird… I would find it very rude to tell people at your job that you think a coworker is weird. I wouldn’t do something like that and I’m not the type to wanna talk about others especially in a bad way.

I replied to her and said I wasn’t really thinking when I asked our coworker that and meant it as a joke (meant to say I didn’t mean anything serious), never meant to get her upset and I would never call her weird. She then replied saying I could’ve joked with him about anything else and that she keeps a small group of people at work who she’s close to and trusts and that they would never lie to her and that I’m a certain way whenever she is sarcastic. She then goes on to say she has no problems with me but we’re just coworkers for now on and she’s gonna unfollow me to ‘protect her peace’.

At this point I’m just upset and very confused because I don’t know what I did wrong and how all of a sudden I wasn’t a good friend for her. This is the first I’ve heard anything about me having some sort of problem with her being sarcastic, I had no idea I did?

I had started to get upset and started crying. I’m a very sensitive person. I grew up having a hard time socializing. Getting along with people is a very difficult thing for me as it’s hard to talk to others. When I thought I got along with this girl fine It felt good because I never really get any kind of friendship and I really liked her. I just feel tired because it feels like these things have been repeating my whole life.

A coworker nearby (B) asked me what happened and I explained to her. She thinks it wasn’t a big deal for our other coworker to act this way over me just asking a question. I also explained to her I would never say anything bad about her and that it has to be some misunderstanding. (B) believes she had talked to me this certain way because she knows how shy and nice I am and I’m not the type to say anything back. Also This girl had this same coworker say stuff about her recently, but (B) believes she wouldn’t say it to her personally because she knows (B) would say shit back. She tells me to not worry about her and reassures me that I didn’t do anything wrong.

I don’t know but I just don’t understand what had happened and am trying to just not be worried/upset at the moment.