My mom (54F) is a narcissist, my dad (50M) has a big ego and I (17F) am an overthinker and tend to keep things bottled up inside me until I burst.

My parents have always been strict about my education ever since I started highschool which I thought it ended at that, being strict.

But ever since I turned 16 I've been thinking that my parents have been trying to turn me into a mini version of them.

Some examples being: • My dad paid for me to have piano lessons, he wanted to play piano when he was my age. • I was forced to go to BTEC business course in college which is the course my dad did in college. • My parents want me to succeed where they didn't. Get As and Bs in every subject. • My parents are trying to force me to go to university because they wanted to go.

I get that some of these such as getting good grades is just them being good parents.

For GCSE I picked Geography, Geology and History and in my exams I got a C in History and a D in Geography and Geology.

When I started college my dad told me to tell him when I have assignments so that he can help me because he "Knows what to include since I've learned it." - Said by my dad.

However when I do my assignments after I finish them he comes and checks them but basically changes everything, for example when I tell my dad my teacher only wants bulletpoints for that part of the assignment he turns them into a whole paragraph.

When I tell him that I don't need his help (because I don't want him to help me with everything) he always brings up my "mistake" in taking the subjects I did in GCSE and that he helps me so that I "don't make the same mistake again" and that a pass (equivalent to a C) isn't good enough. My mom agrees with him. Basically, they think that if I don't have my dad help me then I'll do shit.

This makes me feel upset and trapped, like they're trying to make me dependant on them which also makes me think that this help is forced.

Lately, I've told them that I've been feeling overworked but they haven't said anything to me to let me know that I can lower my revision/working on assignment hours which is from when I wake up to around 6pm. I would change them myself but if I do they'll complain. They just acted like I never said that to them.

Yesterday, my dad came to check on my work and yet again when I said I didn't want his help he brought up my GCSE "mistake" and this time I have had enough and burst into tears as well as snap at my dad and when my mom took his side I ended up snapping at her too.

During my snap I said that I hated my life and wanted to kill myself and other things I've felt about this situation and they haven't asked me why I felt like that, I only got a text from my dad saying that he loved me.

Also my parents somehow seemed to make themselves seem like the victims.

Now my mom wants me to apologize to my dad because it's my fault, according to her and my dad.

My mom is calling me a disappointment because of this and says that my dad was only trying to help me but to me the help seems forced.

I get that I shouldn't have yelled and I am thinking of apologizing to my dad just to be the bigger person.

So AITAH for snapping at my parents for not wanting their help with my assignments?