By Green-Soil2670 • Score: 0 • April 15, 2025 12:47 AM
This is a long story but I want to make it short.
I met this guy last year in April in the library and we opened up a lot, very fast. He eventually introduced me to a lot of his friends and family and we bonded. He's one of those very argumentative guys who have strong beliefs and never negotiates. but I didn't see this side of him until things settled down.
I gave him a lot of advice regarding girls and career stuff etc. I even came to him for advice a few times regarding certain things. The other day, the topic of politics came up and he mentioned how he is a conservative and asked what I was and I said liberal. He said he guessed its probably because my father was a liberal and I said yes, partially but not entirely. He laughed and said how much ? I said I wouldn't quantify it and then he said ok "I'm gonna assume a lot" and started to tell me about how everything ive said is basically what conservatives identify with. it sounded like he was convincing me, subtly.
The next day, I addressed the part where he assumed im solely a liberal because of my father and asked for him to apologize over it since it isn't true and how he should respect my word when I say it and don't choose to go into detail about my belief system. This sparked conflict and asked me to meet him in person which I did.
In person, he insulted my character, said I only asked him to apologize because I have low self esteem and low confidence and how I want to bring him down by forcing an apology and submit, how he doesn't trust me, how I love to argue and I get some sort of sick pleasure from it, how controlling I am etc just a load of negative talk. I told him he's wrong about me and im not doing that and even mentioned the things ive done for him to uplift him (not to come off as bragging but to dismantle his argument).
He gave a firm "this friendship is over" and he stood on it quite firmly. I sent him this then blocked him off everything :
I don’t feel bad about myself Charles nor do I have low self esteem. I'm ok the way I am, Charles even much better than others
This apology thing bothered you that much, to the point where you began insulting me and throwing all kinds of bad words in my direction.
People do things in their life, sometimes bad sometimes good, even you joke about it when it happens.
But you took it seriously today (even the texting) and threw unnecessary bad words against my character.
Non stop.
I’m not interested in ever being friends after this. I don’t deserve this type of treatment and disrespect. Ciao for now".
We went to the same church (its been 3 months I havent went and I was getting texts from members asking where I've been and such and such) but everyone knows him and he's basically in the middle of most discussions. I ran into him in person and he gave me a fist bump saying "what's up" and walking away.
His friend is hovering me on social media by liking everything I post, all my comments and texts me if im at school (we're in university). AITA ?
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