My bf had his card declined for trying to by something at the mall. He’s 19 and lives with his parents still but I assumed he’d have control over his finances because 1) he has a job and 2) he’s an adult.

The next time we hung out at the mall, he decided to only tell me about his card situation while we were shopping for clothes. He told me he was only allowed to spend it on gas and another item (I can’t say it cause I know he’s on here).

But it honestly put me in a rough spot cause what am I supposed to do now? He gave zero context to the why he was suddenly ‘limited to those two items’ and this pissed me off cause that basically meant I, with no current job, would have to pay for food and anything else- that meant like no special dates, dinners, activity stuff would need to be paid by me-

So today (almost a month later), I ask him to have a conversation about it.

I have a special event coming up and I literally had to uninvite him cause I would have to foot the entire bill including a nice suit and tickets for him nevermind me cause I would at least want him to look nice.

He has cash saved up for emergencies but I obviously don’t want him to feel like he needs to spend his emergency fund just so he can provide for himself or me in this relationship-

I also want to know if the reason that he can’t spend money is due to him not wanting to spend a lot to save up or because his parents just don’t approve.

AITAH for being so nosy in this?