EDIT: HE DOESN’T LET ME HAVE GUY FRIENDS!!! Consider this 😭

Hi. My boyfriend (23M) and I (22F) have been together for almost 2 years now.

My man (who is also my baby daddy) has a girl best friend (21F, I will call her H for this story). He says that he considers her a sister, they’ve been friends for a decade.

Recently, they’ve started snapping each other. I don’t know of what, he just claims it’s a streak but you don’t keep a streak by sending snaps back and forth every few minutes. I mentioned to him that it made me uncomfortable, because of a few reasons.

1.) There was a time when he was going through a rough patch. He was drinking a lot, going to bars, including the one she works at. They didn’t ever really spend time together before this. I had also been invited to hang out, which is nice. But let’s just say things didn’t go well and I ended up asking him why he was treating me so poorly. He pretty much told me to fuck off because I was making a bit of a scene at the bar we were at.

Understandable, but here’s the thing. I was pregnant, and all H did was sit there. After I left, he told me she thought I was being crazy and I just need to leave him alone. (He was trying to break up with me because his other baby mama wasn’t letting him see his kid… which is not my fault, and he doesn’t get to take that out on his new baby mom.)

2.) She doesn’t text me, he doesn’t encourage her to text me, we don’t all hang out (although as far as I know, he doesn’t hang out with her either). I would reach out and try to be friends, but why would I feel comfortable doing so? If I had a guy best friend, who I considered a brother; I would want to hang out with my man and him, and hope they become best friends.

I feel like it’s normal to be uncomfortable and not like someone who does that. If roles were reversed, my man wouldn’t like it either. He’s admitted that.

So I asked him to stop snapping her. It makes me uncomfortable. He actually agreed at first when I brought up how I felt about it.

But this morning when he was at work, he texted me, “Even if you don’t like someone like H don’t make me not be friends with someone who’s been like a sister to me.”

Yet they never really talk and never hang out. I only met her a couple times, and that was when they were at the bar together. She doesn’t seem to want to be friends with me. And he doesn’t seem to want or care about us all being friends. Would you be uncomfortable? What would you do? Am I in the wrong for asking that of him? What should I do? And if I am the asshole, why? He doesn’t let me have guy friends!

(Hopefully I explained this well enough. This is my first reddit post pls be kind 😭 edit: thank you all for being brutally honest with me! leaving relationships is hard and i’m working on it 🫠)