My boyfriend (24M) and I (24F) have been dating for over 4 years. We went ring shopping together and he bought a ring for me that he’s really excited to propose with. He mentioned that I should do my nails for a concert that we’re going to next week. Of course, I figured what he meant by that.

The problem is that my sister (22F) is getting married in about a month. If I show up at the wedding newly engaged, I’m sure all my family will be ooohing and ahhhing over my ring and asking me about our proposal, marriage plans, etc. As the younger sister she’s “followed in my footsteps” for most things in her life and getting married is one of the only things she’s had “first.” I really want her to have her moment without me taking any of the attention. So I explained this to my boyfriend, and I told him that I didn’t want him to propose until after her wedding. He was upset by this. He said he already had a detailed plan, and he told his friends and family about it, and now he’s going to have to explain to everyone that the plan didn’t work out. He said planning the proposal should be his job and I should let him handle it. I can understand his perspective and I will admit that I’m a major Type A person but I don’t think this is about me being a control freak or anything. I just think the timing is wrong and I don’t want to take any attention away from my sister at her wedding.

AITAH?