I (28F) live in a home with my inlaws. My FIL and MIL live upstairs. My husband (29M), my baby, and two ferrets live downstairs (basically a basement). We share a bathroom, laundry room, and living room.

My brother in law (34M), his wife, two kids, and two dogs live in the attached in law next door.

My husband and i share the one bathroom, laundry room, and living room with his parents. My BIL has their own bathroom, living room, and laundry room. We all share a kitchen that connects the two spaces.

My MIL baby sits my BIL kids 5 days a week and The noises upstairs can be loud enough to startle our baby awake (and honestly it makes me jump and my heart skip a beat). We have asked them when it does happen in person if they can keep it down or ask them to stop throwing things, but my MIL response is that “hes just a 2 year old/they are just kids, what do you want me to do”.

Oddly my doctor has called out that i have higher than normal blood pressure. Which i never had before. I notice that the noises make it worse. I want to be able to put in headphones but i dont want to live my 7am-4pm life 5+ days a week like this.

We have asked her to babysit on my BIL side since they have a whole side available to them when they are at work. But my MiL says she is not comfortable with their dogs. Fine… but why do we have to accept the noise because my BIL has dangerous dogs. She isnt willing to work with us.

This isnt the only voiced issue that we have been told to “deal with it” about.

We have discussed moving out and my FIL responds with “no you cant”. Yes- life will be harder financially, but we cant stay here like this. I dont want to die living here thinking we never took the risk to leave.

Im scared a bit to take the leap to move but living here i feel we have been guilted into staying…. Feeling trapped a bit.