This happened awhile ago. Sarah and I are both Americans who met while we were abroad. Sarah is a certified extrovert while I am an introvert with social anxiety.

Sarah lives far, so when we came back home we didn’t see each other for years, although we kept up with each other through social media, liked and commented each others posts, etc.

I got a text one day that she was going to be in the city closest to me (about 1 hour drive) and if I wanted to get lunch. I was excited to see her so I said sure, I’d come pick her up.

She texted me the day before and asked if she could bring the two friends she brought along with her on her trip. I had never met them and didn’t know they were with her. I hadn’t seen Sarah in five years. I said I’d rather keep it to the two of us if that was ok with her. She said that was fine and it didn’t seem like a big deal, we got lunch together and chatted and had fun.

It’s been about a three years since then and she hasn’t spoken to me at all. She stopped liking my posts and stopped commenting. When I tag her specifically or send her something, she reacts with an emoji or a like, and I eventually stopped. I announced my elopement recently and she never commented or liked the post.

I’m going to be near her city soon for a work trip and was wondering if I should reach out and see if she wants to get drinks, or if I should just assume our friendship isn’t really there anymore.

Was I the asshole who messed this up, and should I reach out to her?