📝 AITAH for asking my parents to buy me an ipad or a laptop for my school knowing the financial constraints they're going through?

By dear-bread9999 • Score: 1 • April 26, 2025 6:24 AM


im 16, and moving to 11th grade now. I'm preparing for competitive exams and attending online coaching for it. The lectures are of 4 hours from mon-fri. Excluding the time for assignments and textbook reading. I have a laptop rn that's the worst it has been. 12 year old, forced to update to windows 10 pro, a SSD and many other things. It doesn't charge at all and has to be plugged in at all times for it to work.

The problems I face with the laptop is that I cannot move my study places, it has to be the same as the plug is at a place only. I like to change my study places based on my mood and it increases my efficiency . I cannot read textbooks on the laptop as the keyboard pokes my stomach (😭), overheats alot, i cannot Mark anything in it. My study desk is occupied 70% by only the laptop. It's very slow. Etc I cant remember more things.

In March 2025, I had asked for a ipad at first and my father changed my mind and agreed to buy a laptop for me. I agreed and then he refused and then got the 12 year old laptop repaired and it works like shit. Its literally making my studies so hard and I have absolutely started to despise studying just because of it.

Context: back in December my elder brother who's working in the usa got married and his wife moved to the usa with him to pursue her masters. my father has taken a loan of approx $60k-$80k to fund her education. In March 2025 we found out his wife has a extramarital affair and then went on to accuse him of all sort of things (domestic violence, etc), she also mentioned that she didn't want to pursue masters and was forced to marry him.

We're now filing for a divorce. Her family is refusing to allow for divorce because they're saying that it will ruin the reputation of their family in the society. The expenses of the lawyer will be surplus as her family isn't coordinating. This case might last many years as of many complications.

My brother had gotten his wife a laptop ($800) for her education. Now that they're filling for a divorce, my father said that the laptop will be mine when she comes back to our city. But this is complicated, why would she pass on her laptop to me? She has also said that I spoke shit about her which I never did.

my father has invested atleast $30k in the wedding formalities. Plus we now have the loan of $70k approx. am I in the wrong for asking for a new gadget ($400)?

Note: I can't part time work as there are no part time jobs here. My savings are controlled by my parents which isn't much of a problem as I just ask my parents for something and they get it for me.

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