My husband (28m) had pulled an all nighter and was awake for over 24 hours working on a final project for school. I (27f) had taken the car to my evening workout and afterwards I called my husband and told him I was on my way back. He asked if I wanted to run some errands together, I said yes and that I would pick him up. I pulled up to the curb of the house and he walked up to the car asking if he could drive, I said no as I was already in the drivers seat and ready to go. He usually always wants to drive and I’m rarely the one driving both of us.

As we’re exiting the grocery store he insists on driving again and I say no, but this time taking into consideration the fact that he had not slept in over a day, and I was worried about his ability to drive safely.

This spiraled into a huge argument where he says I have no right to “not let him” do anything. And that it isn’t my place to tell him what to do. I said it is my place because I am a passenger in the car and I’m concerned for both of us in the event that there is a lapse in his judgment due to sleep deprivation.

He says I am in the wrong, I need to take accountability, apologize, and I need to trust him as he is “fully functioning” and hasn’t done anything to indicate he’s incapable of driving. I argue that knowing he hasn’t slept is reason to not drive. He also insists that I should have approached the situation by asking him if he was okay to drive or not (in my mind that wasn’t an option? Of course he would have said yes because he wants to drive!) I thought shutting down the idea was the best route, although I can see where that may come across as controlling on my part.

The argument continued the entire ride home (I drove).

AITAH for not letting him drive us home?