Hi , this is my first time here.. I'm from India, in our custom when pregnant women enters 7th month, we do traditional baby shower by inviting few guests mostly women. It is done by inlaws of women. But in my situation even though it is being held at my in laws home, all expenses are handled by me and my husband. We are not well off, we live pay check to pay check... So v put lil budget to this baby shower and informed my parents about having 25 guests from my parents side but my mom insists on bringing more people, relatives+ her neighbours. I'm not okay with it and informed her same. I told her v have budget issue. She dismissed it saying she can offer money but my parents took money from me year back and promised to return it within 6 months yet they did not return it. I also help my parents with money + my younger brother is staying with me and I take care of his food, clothing. My parents are also not well if ,below middle class. I do not want to enter into circle of debts by doing large scale function. I'm informing this to my parents very politely but my mom is not at all ok with this and goes into confrontation mode. My mom's parents still control my parents, my mom expectes same from me but I do not want any one to control my life or finance. I will be okay if v r not paying since not my money I don't care but v have to pay. No one will help us with any expenses of kid or delivery I know this. So I'm trying to save upfront.

So please help me to understand, Aita for asking to limit guests.