So I (23F) and my roomate (23F) live in a studio apartment together. We have little divider things we bought to create a bit more privacy in our bed space but generally there is not much privacy. We met in college and weren't neccesarily friends but were friendly. Around graduation we found out we were both stressed about where we'd live after and we both wanted to stay in town longer so we decided to find somewhere affordable together so we wouldn't be living with complete strangers. My roomate was always larger but I think since we have graduated she has put on 100-200lbs. She binges almost everyday and I don't want to be mean but it's very disturbing. To avoid looking at it I'd normally try to stay in my little bedroom area but I can still hear her chewing, opening bags, the cabinets, the fridge, belching, and wheezing. It has also made the eating are kind of repulsive to me because (even though she cleans after) I've seen the table covered in chip bags, spilled sauce, saliva, etc during the process. The times I haven't been able to look away her eyes get vacant and it's just so creepy. I know it's fuled by her mental health and I've mentioned that she should speak with a therapist about how she's feeling, without directly bringing up the eating.

I'm concerned for her but don't really know her well enough to be blunt about the issue. Not so sound self centered, but it's also heavily affected me. I avoid coming home to reduce the chance of seeing it and I can't bring myself to eat in the apartment because the space grosses me out. My roomate noticed me being out more and losing weight so she asked what was up. I said " I don't mean this in a judgemental way and I'm sorry if you're having a hard time, but the way you're eating at the table is kind of distressing. I know stopping isn't simple but could you try not to do that while I'm at home? Eating is fine just please avoid binges and consider seeing a therapist." She blew up at me and said she doesn't binge. That I shouldn't shame a another woman for having a normal appetite and that my eating disorder was not her fucking problem (I don't have one so I guess projection.) I was speechless and just left again and spent the night at a friends. When I talked about what happened my friend agreed that my living situation sounded awful, but said it was kind of an AH thing to specifically mention the binging being the issue. She said I should have just said I was more busy lately and toughed it out till our lease is up. I'm just tired of living like this and hoped she'd maybe be willing to address her issues if she was aware of how it's affecting others. I also just feel sad for her in general I don't think I was an asshole but if was I'll apologize to her. If I wasn't an asshole I'm not sure how I'll proceed but I don't really want to apologize to her.

So AITAH?