I went on a date with this guy on Friday eve. It went well. He said he was flying to Canada the following Tuesday and would love to see me before then. I saw him again on the Sunday eve and did feel he was a bit keen and intense but we overall had a nice time. He was visibly annoyed that I left after only giving him a quick kiss (there were lots of people around in the carpark and i felt uncomfortable). That evening he jokingly mentioned via text that he thought I was 'stubborn' and when I asked him why he thought that, he said "my innate wisdom and experience tell me so." He also mentioned that it was a shame I 'ran away' so quickly as he had something to gift me, and then said he wouldn't tell me what it was, and I would 'have to wait' until he got back from his trip. I thought that was a bit odd and immature but let it go.

On the Monday eve at 10pm we had a quick phone chat as I was driving back from the gym. I had suggested date ideas for our first two dates, so I mentioned that perhaps he could suggest an idea for our third date. He was flying back on Saturday 26th. At no point did I mention that I was free the weekend of 26/27th, as I assumed he would be recovering from his flight, plus I have plans that weekend.

Anyway, at 12.45am in the early hours (less than 3 hours later) I recieved the WhatsApp below. I then replied in the morning and was working all day.

Later, I was at dinner with family member and friends, and they were horrified by his response. They said I was too nice in my initial response. I'd known this guy four days and they were concerned about his tone and said he seemed controlling, intense, and rude. After they said that, I realised I didn't want to proceed with dating him. I sent another message and blocked him.

Messages are below

12.45am HIM Hey ***

Lovely to speak to you earlier. I have been thinking about options for our next date. I am hoping we can do something the weekend I come back from Canada.

I have thought of two options.

Option 1 can be done either on the 26th or the 27th. Option 2 is only available on the evening of the 26th.

Option 2 is something that I think both of us might find quite special and it’s a one-off whereas option 2 1 is something that we can do anytime.

So my first question is could you be available to spend the eve of the 26th with me?

10:01am ME: Morning ###, hope you slept well 😊. I cant do the weekend but could do eve of weds 30th? Or Sat 3rd? Hopefully you will be recovered from flight and jet lag free! Good luck with the packing today xx

10:03am HIM: Oh that’s a real shame 😞

10:05am HIM: I was really hoping to see you that weekend

18:05pm ME: Really looking forward to seeing you again too. Hope packing is going/ has gone well and safe travels to Canada. Enjoy the plane food 🤣🙌🏽 Looking forward to hearing about your adventures xxx

18:12pm HIM I don’t know whether you’re deliberately ignoring what I’m saying or if it is passing you by. After you asked me to plan our next date I spent quite a lot of time looking at things we could do that weekend. So now I’m disappointed not only that we won’t see each other that weekend I’m back but also that we won’t be able to do the one off experience I had especially looked into because I thought you would really like. I don’t understand why you didn’t mention you were busy that weekend. If you had it would have saved me quite a lot of effort as well as preventing me getting my hopes up 😞

19:34pm ME: It seems we've got crossed wires, I didn't realise you were thinking that weekend, as you were flying back then. I never said I was available that weekend.

We only spoke at 10pm last night, and I didn't think you would start planning straight away.

Maybe it's best to confirm dates we are free, and plan from there.

I really appreciate you planning the experience.

I would like to see you again, so happy to coordinate diaries.

I'm just going into my sister in laws for dinner. Hope your evening goes well and you manage to get some rest before your flight.

21:32pm ME: I've reflected on the tone and content of your last message and I feel that the way you're speaking to me is aggressive, and making me feel uncomfortable. Therefore I've changed my mind about pursuing anything further with you. Hope you find what you are looking for.