I (38M) and my ex (37F) started dating 5 years ago. About 2 years ago things got really rocky. I won’t even get too much into it but we’ve been in this weird back and forth situationship. Every couple of weeks or months she’ll start up some argument over a bunch of nonsense.

The most recent happened this past Monday night at my house. She came over, I bought dinner for us, and shortly after finishing she starts bringing up Emily King who is an IG personality that talks about relationships. She’s the type of personality that validates men in their struggles in relationships and points out obvious double standards and lack of accountability that women display. Or simply stating basic logical things like “Hey ladies, that man who is sure of himself and values his time will not be interested in games.”.

So she brings this person up and starts going off about how Emily shouldn’t be allowed to have a platform like this. That she’s not a licensed professional and is just taking advantage of men. To which I replied “Well she doesn’t have to be an expert. She’s an Internet personality and has every right to post her opinions. For years men have been shit on, and she has gotten a following because she actually validates men and their struggles in relationships.”

There was some back and forth about it and then she started getting loud with me. Yelling at me and demanding I “just admit” why I follow her. At this point I had had enough of this badgering about fucking IG and who I follow. I told her she needed to leave. That I wasn’t going to stand in my own home and be ridiculed about who I’m following on IG. She then turns on the tears. I take my dogs outside to piss, and come back in when I saw she left.

The next day we got into a texting exchange where I asked if she was going to apologize for her behavior to which she replied “Apologize?”. Then she proceeded to act like she just asked a simple question about why I follow this person. Which is not at all what happened. More words got exchanged and I eventually just blocked her on all digital platforms. Shout out Castillo.

So am I the asshole for not wanting to put up with this badgering bullshit over following an Internet personality that advocates for men? This kind of stuff happens a lot with her, and after talking with two different therapists, we have come to the conclusion that she might have Borderline Personality Disorder. Or at least have a lot of the traits of BPD.