I (26m), have a friend (28m who I’ll call CoP ‘canceller of plans) who I’ve known since I was 12 and who constantly cancels plans at the last minute and doesn’t attempt to reschedule or remedy the cancelled plans, and this most recent instance has made me start to reconsider our friendship.

We are starting up Football (round ball) season where I live, and I organised for me and a friend (27m) to play with a new team about 4 months ago. I’d had discussions with CoP about him wanting to start playing invited him to join and he agreed. He came to a training session enjoyed it and said he was excited to play the season, but he wouldn’t be able to make trainings due to a pre existing engagement (it’s a very low division so nws on that front).

2 weeks ago CoP sent me a message saying he was having trouble with the registration website. I spent a little under an hour assisting him, he said it was working and I didn’t hear from him again, so I figured ‘sweet he’s registered’.

Tuesday we have training he’s still in the team GC, kits get handed out I grab CoP a pair of shorts and socks and shoot him a private message saying ‘hey, I’ve grabbed shorts and socks for the game this weekend’ and get hit back with ‘oh didn’t you get my message’. He’d forgotten to lmk that he’d decided to pull out of playing because he’s got travel plans and events coming up and doesn’t think he can afford it. I’ve been talking him up and have been working hard to make sure he’s included so it’s a bit of a gut bunch.

When we do hang I always have a great time, and he’s fun to be around, but this issue is starting to wear on my nerves. He doesn’t cancel every time but it’d be like 7/10 times.

I’m conflicted on wether or not to be upset because he always has valid reasons for cancelling (family problems, double booking, friends just broken up with their girlfriend, work commitments, are specific examples I recall). But the thing that’s irking me is that the last few times he’s broken plans for the benefit of other friends and I don’t seem to get the same benefit.

So AITAH for being angry at my friend for constantly breaking plans with me? And would I be in the right if I said something?