so i (18f) applied to uni last year and was offered a place, i told my gf (f19) and she was unbothered pretty much said well done and then carried on shopping. i ended up not taking the place i had been offered as i was comfortable with the job i had at the time. my gf a few months later asks me about if i’m going to uni and i told her i had decided not to and she replies to me saying she’s glad i’m not as she wouldn’t want me to be so far away cos she doesn’t trust me not to cheat on her (i’ve never cheated on her but have in the past at age 13-15 whilst in abusive relationships) i just ignored her comment and got on with life . jump to present time, my gf told me a few days ago that she got into uni, i was confused as she had never even talked about going to uni she has a job that is very well paying for her age and her pay will go up as she gets older. we had a long conversation about it but to simplify i basically said i’m happy she got in but i’m annoyed she didn’t tell me she was even applying or that she even wanted to go (we usually tell each other everything). she thinks that i’m being rude and horrible and i should just be happy for her cos i’m her gf but i cant help but feel like this is something that should’ve at least been mentioned to me beforehand even if she didn’t tell me she applied at least say she had an interest in it.

id like to add that she constantly moans at me for not making time for her but now she wants to go to uni 5 hours away from me knowing i can’t afford the trips up there so most likely will only see her once a month. i work 18 hours a week mostly evening and one half day but she works 6 days a week from about 9am- 7pm. i had my job before she got hers and have been working the same weekly rota for 2 years, she agreed to hours that clashed with mine but tells me it’s my fault and i should just change my hours (i work for a big company so it’s not as easy as just saying i need to change my shifts, she works for a small business)

any comments would be appreciated. i just want to know if my feelings are valid or if i’m in the wrong.

ps sorry if this is confusing