My girlfriend is married with this guy since 17 years and he makes no effort to make her feel special. He is a nice guy and takes care of kids, has a job but he is also over protective and keeps an eye on her all the time. She sleeps in a separate room with their special needs boy and this man sleeps in a different room as he needs more space in the bed which is fair. Both of them work full time and have no family support. I see my friend hustling and he controls everything that she earns. He never stops her from buying anything but he reminds her that she doesnt need this or that all the time. He is currently going through some health issues which my friend is supporting him with but he just burps on her and demands sex. She told me that she wants to keep the marriage but there is no intimacy between them. He forces her to have sex or forces himself on her when she is drunk. She is not allowed to drink outside so she buys her alcohol and drink at home. She is feeling bad that she refuses sex but she told me that she is not interested. They have been sleeping separately from 7 years now and he makes no effort to talk besides when he want sex. I dont know what to tell this girl but I feel sorry for her. She is attractive, educated and in a high paying job but she doesnt stand up for herself.