(English is not my first language)

Hi! For some context, I (32F) am a very quiet person. I have social anxiety and while I do interact with my colleagues I do prefer to be quiet when I'm in the office because I feel overwhelmed when not at home. I also hate small talk. The girl (35F) I work directly with is a extrovert and loves to talk but because she doesn't like our colleagues she just talks to me.

Recently she went on vacation. On her first day at home she sends me a text asking how things are at work, I found it weird because is just her first day and stuff have been really calm here so I just respond that everything is fine. Couple days later she traveled to Europe with her bf, but she keeps sending me reels on Instagram (at least 10 a day) and keeps responding to the work group chat (she stopped once someone threatened to kick her out of the group because she should be enjoying her trip).

A few days later she sends me a text that says "Hi! How are you? Tell me about yourself! Everything OK at work?". Again I just answer that everything is OK. She then gets mad and complains to a mutual work friend that I've been dry in my texts. I got kinda angry at that ngl because I was not rude, just had nothing to say and didn't want to distract her from the trip.

After that she basically texts me every day asking how things are at work. I tell her "I will update you if something important happens". Se keeps texting. On her LAST day of vacation she texts me "Hi! Everything OK? Do you miss me?". I'm going crazy at this point because I just think she should enjoy her vacation.

She comes back and then proceeds to question me on my reason to chance the settings on my text app (now people can't see if I've read their texts or not). None of my friends did this. Not even my husband. She asked like she wanted to see if I did this because of her constant texts (I did but like who asks something like that?).

On the same day she says that we need to talk about our relationship and proceeds to say that I should feel comfortable to tell her when something is bothering me but to say it in a gentle way (she gets angry, crys and takes things to heart very easily so everyone avoids criticizing her). She also told me that she knows that I like to be quiet but she wants to talk. To avoid conflict (because this conversation happened inside the office space) I just stayed quiet and responded with "sure, everything is fine!". She talked a little bit about work too and I felt weird, basically I'm a very focused worker (thanks ADHD meds) and work fast while she is slower. It felt a little like she was saying that the way I work could impact her, but maybe that's just in my head.

(Sometimes she also asks who is calling me, who I'm texting with and what I'm doing in general, sends reels and tells me to watch in front of her so she can see my reaction.)

I've never had to deel with anything like this before and I'm starting to question if I'm the weird one. As far as I know the only other person that she acts like this is her bf and I'm worried that when I go on vacation (a couple days from now) she'll text me non stop and get angry if I don't respond when she wants me to.

It's not that I don't like her it's just that interacting with people gets me really tired and some days just feels like a lot.

So, AITH for getting annoyed?