📝 AITAH for being honest to my friend after she asked me if her crush likes her back ?

By DobreEmpire • Score: 1 • April 15, 2025 6:33 PM


So, my friend (26F) is bisexual (mostly leaning towards ladies) and doesn't have any relationship/dating experience. We've been very close friends for 9 years now and I was the first person she told about having a crush on a coworker of hers. After talking and analysing the situation for a couple months, she proceeded into asking me whether I believe her crush likes her or not.

So, her crush (24F, let's call her Cindy) is lesbian. Cindy started doing playful teasing towards my friend a couple of weeks after meeting her (type of teasing was fake fists on the stomach or slapping her upper back, something I would argue is not flirty teasing). My friend was convinced that Cindy likes her and insists that it was flirty teasing. They went out together twice (first time it was those 2 alongside another coworker), where Cindy kept on talking about her exes, her sexual experiences, her hookups and even mentioned a new girl she was into from her theatre team!!! The other time when they went out alone with my friend, my friend tried giving a hint to Cindy about having a crush on her, yet the girl didn't get it and plainly asked "Is it on a guy or girl ?" (since she knows my friend is bi) and added "Try approaching her in a friendly way" and then proceeded to keep on talking about the previous subject they were discussing.

My friend wanted to analyse every move, text and breath of Cindy and we've been doing it since mid January. I'm 99% sure the girl isn't interested and while my friend has exposed her interest to her multiple times (she once even got angry and acted offended in front of Cindy because she called another coworker the most attractive person at their workplace and not her). AIW for being brutally honest to my friend ? She took it very heavily.

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