So, I (18 F) threw one of my good friends a birthday party. She finally turned 18 and was free of her crazy abusive mother. However, she had nowhere to go. She asked if she could live with my bf in his apartment for a month or two until she could get her own place. she was very respectful of it, understanding any worries I might have since I'm living two hours away from home at my uni. I had no doubts, because she's a trusted friend and I knew I could have faith in them being alone tg. Plus, I wanted my bf to be better friends with my people. we found out through a mutual friend that my bfs bestie is actually super fake and spoke on his name often. to keep it short, my bf needs friends. and my friends are the realest. how could I possibly say no to such a great idea?

It's only been about a week, and I've let them both know I expect active communication from both their ends with me; no leaving me on delivered for long periods of time, telling me if they ever get uncomfortable, etc. I haven't expressed any issues to either of them. But honestly, it's kinda driving me crazy. Especially finding out that they drink together. My friend invited a group of our friends over to his place, and he alone was the only male drinking with them. Of course I'm not gonna tell him NOT to drink with them, that sounds crazy. but I can't rlly explain how much it bugs me. maybe because i'd never do that with a group of guys i don't rlly know? but then again that's more of a woman issue. i think what really bothers me is how jealous my bf is when i try to make male friends. to be fair, earlier in the relationship when i was 17 i did mess up real bad. so any paranoia is justified from his behalf. but i guess i feel some kind of way knowing he can do what he told me i explicitly cant. then again, i did drink up with a few friends from my club and 2 of them were (biologically) male.. ugh i don't know. I just want to hear if i'm being unnecessarily jealous. AITAH?