EDIT: The markers don’t matter. I held off buying them NOT because we’re financially strained but because HE PROMISED me. I care about the promise my fiancé made to me. That’s it. Just to clear up for everyone having discourse. Thanks

I (24F) and my fiance 24M) are in a long standing fight about markers he promised to buy me. Please read because this sounds bitchy but there’s a whole story. So My fiancé has extra money ($5000) coming in in April that is from our taxes. My fiancé at the time (December) promised me that he would buy a $200 set of Ohuhu markers for me so I could continue with my art. I had purchased a $40 set with my OWN MONEY to hold me over and everything was fine.

FF to April, he got his funding on the 1st and it was gone by noon. He spent $5000 in a MORNING!! He bought over $1200 worth of comic book omnibuses for his “collection” and bought a $2500 laptop for HIMSELF with enough specs to save NASA. Yet when I mentioned to him his promise, he started back pedalling saying “ oh well $200 for markers is kinda stupid” saying to me how our 3 year old son will “only get into them and ruin them” mentioned the same thing to him about his comic books and shrugged me off. He continued to shrug me off and spew how stupid it is for me to want $200 markers. I retorted to him that his comic books are ALSO $200 a piece or more and all they do is sit there on a shelf collection dust after he’s done reading them.

He refuses to listen to me. It’s not even about the markers anymore. It’s about the principal. Don’t make promises to people and then back pedal when you want to be selfish about it. I have been with him for 6 years. This money is his yes and I understand at the end of the day he doesn’t need to spend money on me. I TOLD HIM NOT TO GET THE BOOKS HE BOUGHT ME and to get my markers ONLY INSTEAD. He bought me the books and I am extremely grateful I do love them. I just wish he would have listened to me. I feel like a selfish bitch but I’m genuinely just mad that he promised something and then back pedaled and made me sound like I’m the bad guy being a priss for asking for $200 markers when I told him to not get anything else and to just get my markers and he didn’t listen to me then either. I literally told him the store I was buying them from had a sale and they would be $136 and that I wouldn’t get the books we originally picked out I would just get the markers I wanted. And nothing.

He ignored that and then back pedaled AGAIN. I just feel like I’m being gaslit and made to feel like I’m the bad guy when I’m not trying to be. I don’t care about the markers at the end of the day, it’s just heartbreaking he would make me feel this way and then break a promise after 3 months of getting my hopes up. If I’m being bitchy let me know cause I’m also on the spectrum and don’t always see the nuances in conversations so if I’m missing something, tell me.