So this happened today and I really need an outside perspective. For context, I (22F) am in university and I was supposed to go out for lunch with two friends (let’s call them Apple and Banana). We had classes until 1pm, then a break from 1 to 2, and another class at 2 which all three of us agreed to skip so we could try this new food place Apple suggested. All good so far.

When class ended at 1, Apple suddenly said she had already made plans previously with another friend (someone I don’t know) during that break slot and she forgot, so we’d have to go after 2pm instead. The rest of us were like, okay cool, and I told them I’d head to my hostel to pray and then come back.

While I was doing wudu, I got a call from Banana saying that Apple had changed her plans again, and we were now going out immediately, so I should hurry up. I rushed to finish praying, got ready again (had to redo my makeup etc.), and just as I was about to leave, I noticed a missed call from the Banana. I called back and she told me that both of them were already out—with two other mutual friends—to get donuts.

Now, I don’t even like donuts, so that part didn’t bother me, but it really bugged me that they just flipped the plan again, especially without checking in with me. I still didn’t say anything and stayed patient, and Banana told me we’d go for food around 2pm instead as soon as they came back.

So I waited.

When they got back, they said they’d pick me up from my hostel. I was still irritated but I didn’t want to make things awkward, so I went. Once I got in the car, Banana casually mentioned that we actually wouldn’t be going for lunch because now Apple had a group meeting with her FYP team (which she had plenty of time to tell us before or reschedule)

At that point I’d had it—I hadn’t eaten properly all day, I was tired, I was looking forward to this, and they just kept pushing it back while doing other things and making other plans. I told the friend driving to drop me back at the hostel, and I left. No one messaged me after class ended (3:30pm) to explain, check in, or apologize.

I feel a little bad for walking out, but at the same time I feel like I was constantly being sidelined and no one respected my time or effort. So, AITA for being mad at them after they changed our plans multiple times, or am I overreacting here?

They’re really good friends of mine and I do like them but I’m wondering how to approach this.