Throw away account - I'm on mobile as well, so sorry for any formatting issues.

My mother has been talking about getting a new puppy for months - stating that she thinks our current senior dog needed a companion. I listened to her while she spoke - and while I said it would be cute to have one, I wasn't all that sure our senior dog would be all that welcoming for a puppy.

Last week, my siblings girlfriend brought home an 11 week old bernedoodle puppy from a coworker who was offering them. This was an incredibly sweet and smart dog - but a majority of the care for it fell onto my lap during the day. I work a second shift, so by the time I was finally falling asleep from 12-1 AM; I'd be woken up by my mother and others in the house around 4 AM - since they would be leaving for work and inevitably wake up the puppy. The only time I'd get some rest after would be the times where I could finally get the puppy to take a nap - and by the end of it I'd have to be getting ready for work.

I felt awful the entire week, and I had intense feelings of sadness come over me the entire time with the compounding lack of sleep + dealing with illness + trying my best to give attention to both dogs (with the senior dog obviously not caring about wanting to interact with the puppy) in the house at that time. I expressed these feelings to my parents and siblings last Saturday, stating that it might even be better to rehome him if there were no other solutions. I was told at that point that they would offer to help more.

Sunday morning, my mother wakes me up to tell me a coworker of hers will rehome the bernedoodle - since she has a dog closer to his age range, a much better suited fenced in yard, and much more time to meet with the puppys needs. I was surprised to hear this after we had all agreed to help each-other out, but I went along with it.

It's been a couple of days now - and the backlash from rehoming him has been awful. Due to our family dynamic, I'm unfortunately used to being thrown under the bus - but it hasn't been to the levels of hate that I'm experiencing now. If it was just me receiving the brunt of this it'd be one thing, but my mother is now even yelling at and ignoring our senior dog. If the people in my family were going to be actively spiteful, then why would they even listen to me? AITAH for expressing my concerns and suggesting rehoming him in the first place?

I have friends who say I wasn't TAH -especially when I wasn't the one who wanted and brought home a new dog; but I cant help feel terrible with how things are playing out now, in addition to reading other forum posts on how people just have to wait out the puppy stage and chug through it - it makes me feel like I gave up too easily, even if I know that the home that puppy is in now is much better for him.