Lemme give some context. This all stated when my great grandfather passed away when I was 12 and in his will he gifted me an my 4 other cousins 5 grand each for a college fund. That's the background, now when I was in middle school I went through a crazy downward spiral battling with depression, suicidal ideation, self harm, the whole shebang. This issues landed me into an inpatient and outpatient mental facility where I was in and out of for about 3-4 months.

Now, how does this tie into the 10 grand? Well during a car ride with my mother I brought the money up (I am turning 17 soon and I'm starting to look at colleges ) and my mother got angry and passive aggressive and she wouldn't give me a straightforward answer until she finally blurted out "we spent the money on the mental hospital okay? We needed it for that and for all the other bills from the issues you caused during your little crazy phase" we got into an argument about the money and I told her it wasn't hers to touch and she had no right especially since that was for my college fund. She said I don't understand the situation and if they hadn't have taken that money to help pay for bills we apparently could've lost our house.

Now your probably wondering about the last 5 grand, well for my 16th birthday my parents arranged a beautiful party with over 200+ guests, I repeatidly expressed my gratitude and I truly was very thankful for the party, between all my family and friends I received about 5,000 dollars in cash and checks, upon opening the checks in front of them my parents asked me to give them all my birthday checks because they "deserved a little something for all the hard work" I didn't argue with this and happily gave them the checks no problem.

Now as a stupid 16 year old I had been smoking weed for quite some time (about since I was 14 give or take) so I dipped into a little of the birthday cash to purchase weed which my mother found out about and demanded I give her all the cash I received from my party, she insisted I didn't deserve it and that it was my fault for going out and buying drugs in the first place, to put some perspective on why I was smoking in the first place was because initially I couldn't sleep from the sound of my parents yelling at each other snd I couldn't sleep very well either, now I really can't sleep whatsoever.

I tried explaining these things to my mother and I was met with "stop making excuses for the problems you created for yourself' to that I replied that I understand what I did was wrong of me but I still think that money should at least be out into a savings account so I can only touch it when I turn 18, but the time I brought up that idea the money had already been pissed away like it was nothing.

The fact that she insisted it was her money because she threw the party was what ticked me off the most. It wasn't her birthday and that money was a gift which, again, also wasn't hers. What I'm getting at here is am I an asshole for being unbelievably upset with both of my parents for this decision? I honestly think they are overreacting like no other but if I'm wrong please do let me know.

I'm very lost on the matter and I don't know how to feel about it anymore, thanks and please respond