I (F20) have been best friends with this one girl (F21) since we were like 3-4 years old. We've always been close and rarely fought despite our differences. She's also a distant relative of mine. We went no contact a few years ago over a really odd issue. She was going through things and most likely took it out on me.

Basically she was gonna do me a favour and return a computer to the school we both went to since I quit, and it was pretty far away from my parents home where I was. She said she would, but later we got a bill on about $400 (we don't use dollars in my country but that's the estimate) and we refused to pay, of course. She said she had returned it but obviously, that turned out to be a lie so after like a month of fighting on and off, she returned it for me and we didn't have to pay. This was late 2020- early 2021. About half a year later, I decided I missed her and tried to regain contact. It was hard, but eventually we became friends again and have been since then without any issue.

Now, present time. She's upset with me. Over a month ago, she stopped talking to me. I asked why, and she said I had hurt her. I apologized and said I meant no harm, but that I wasn't sure what I had said and asked if she could tell me so I could properly apologize and avoid making the same mistake. Another week went by before she answered and thanked me for my apology, but that she didn't wanna talk about it because she didnt have the energy to explain. I told her it was fine, and we didn't talk for a few days. Eventually, I told her it didn't feel fair that she didn't tell me. I deserved to know what I said. She said she wants to have a great friendship again but it's hard to talk about. I've asked her after yet another week of waiting why she can't just say what it was so we could move on. Now, she hasn't spoken to me for nearly two weeks.

I even made suggestions of things I said like "was it this? Because if that's the case, I meant it like..." And so on. Should I give her more room? The only things I think I could have said to upset her have been when I asked why she wasn't saving money when she needs to, or when I swore a lot out of shock when she posted on her Snapchat story that she was engaged before telling me because, well, I was shocked and a little hurt that she posted it before even telling me.

Again, AITAH?