I (25F) crib too much, at least that’s what I feel. I feel I am upset with my bf most of the times and I seem to not pinpoint the reason well. Most times I just feel neglected. As in, I don’t have fun in his company because it either ends up being the way he enjoys things which neglects my interests or doesn’t happen at all. For instance, if he wants to go somewhere and if I oppose that I don’t and you shouldn’t go as well since you promised me this or that instead, he tells me I am not understanding enough or I am a bad gf for acting this way, wherein I just need something or some activity thats about me. When I tell him I like doing something or wish to go somewhere he never takes the initiative to plan himself or even when I actively ask him again and again he just becomes so casual about it that it never happens. Then I start getting annoyed with small things since I just feel this entire relationship is about him and I just a part of his life and never the other way around. I feel like I am just carrying his life the way he likes. He asks me to voice my likes and dislikes about his behaviour, but he only loves me when I am easygoing or agreeing, whenever I raise contentions he calls me out to be wrong and brings ups an explanation in a way that I feel like an AH. He does talk sweetly to me and talks about doing everything to me but practically he never does take care of things for me and always have an explanation for it owing to his bad state. We have gone through a lot together. We have supported each other, so whatever bad things he is going through, I bear the weight of them equally with him everyday, so I just feel split between saying these and keeping quiet. Because idk if I am TAH for giving him a hard time by wanting him to be a certain way? Am I TAH for demanding too much and constantly cribbing or am I actually being mistreated here? Are relationships supposed to be so one sided? Or is this not one sided I am just too self absorbed to want things to be about me? AITAH?