Basically the title. My girlfriend and I are 23. We’ve been together for nearly two years. About six months before we started dating she had a crush on a coworker of hers, call him Luigi. Luigi didn’t reciprocate and they didn’t go on more than one or two dates. He starts dating someone named Rita shortly after, and apparently these two are now married.

My gf has just gotten wind of this and it has turned into a spiral of “when are we getting married” and “what does she have that i don’t?” We’ve both vehemently agreed in the past we did not want marriage until our careers were solidly in place. This person is a Starbucks barista - they are both baristas as a matter of fact. Not to say barista’s can’t love, but I’m trying to finish law school. I don’t have a pot to piss in let alone a window to throw it out of or to contribute to a marriage that she didn’t want until tonight.

We’ve been talking all night about this and she has brief moments where she questions and says “maybe you love me more than anyone else has,” mind you, i’ve forgiven emotional abuse and emotional cheating multiple times before so it’s frankly really offensive that my devotion to the relationship is in question. I also just don’t know what exactly I’m supposed to do with this information - am I supposed to comfort someone who, on their face, just seems to be really salty about someone who I’d say hardly qualifies as their ex and using it as ammo to project on our relationship? AITAH for calling this what it is and honestly for not having the patience to be the emotional support person in this moment?