Me (21M) and my fiancé (21M) were in a rather poor situation when we lost our apartment last year, we were put into a situation where our roommates were no longer providing for the environment, thus creating a financial issue when one of our roommates had lost their job. We ended up in a couple different places before we were able to land at my friends house, for the sake of this post we can call her Kat. Kat is 23F and is engaged to a man around her age, she grew up with lots of social stipulations and anxiety, so I often can’t talk to her about something I’m upset about without her deeming that I’m only ever mad at her; this it’s hard for me to take care of the problems I’m currently having; when we left the last place we were at to come here, we were informed we wouldn’t be able to bring any animals. We were extremely heartbroken by this considering our animals were our babies, after rehoming them, and settling on the agreement to help clean until we have jobs; this is the tricky part, Kat and her household have 2 cats and a dog, and because I left my fur babies behind I refuse to take care of any of these animals; if they need water or food I have enough of a heart to give it to them, but I refuse to discipline any of them, nor do I clean their litter boxes or track their messes. I was explicitly informed that I wouldn’t have to pick up after these animals, so when the cats knock something off the kitchen table, or the dog decides to get back paws deep into the trash, I don’t bat an eye to stand and deal with it, instead what I’ve noticed is the mess sitting there for 2-3 days, as the animals will continuously get into the same mess that hasn’t been cleaned, AITAH for wanting to accuse my new roommate of animal neglect? AITAH because I plan to stay committed to the original agreement? And finally; AITAH for wanting to bring up how the messes that pertain to the animals are none of my business considering the dirt that had been thrown when we were told we weren’t allowed to bring any animals.