Hi Reddit,

I’m spiraling and need perspective. I (34M) have been married to my partner, Alex (32NB), for six years. We’ve had our ups and downs, but I thought we were solid—open communication, shared goals, no major red flags. Until last month, when I stumbled across something that’s left me questioning everything. For context, Alex has always been spiritual but not religious. They’d meditate, read philosophy, and talk about "connecting with the universe." I’m agnostic but supported their journey. About a year ago, Alex started getting really into this new spiritual group they found online. It wasn’t a church or cult (I checked), just a loose community focused on "divine intimacy." I didn’t think much of it—Alex seemed happy, and they’d spend hours journaling or chanting alone. They called it "self-discovery." Here’s where it gets weird. I noticed Alex was pulling away emotionally. They’d be secretive with their phone, spend late nights in the backyard "meditating," and stopped being affectionate. I asked if something was wrong, and they’d say, “I’m just deepening my connection with the divine.” I felt like I was losing them but didn’t push too hard. Last month, I borrowed Alex’s laptop to send an email (mine was dead), and I saw an open doc titled “Sacred Union Log.” Curiosity got me, and I read it. I wish I hadn’t. It detailed Alex’s “emotional affair” with God. Not like, “I love God” in a religious way, but pages of intimate, almost romantic letters to “the Divine Essence,” describing how they felt “consumed” by this presence. It got weirder—Alex wrote about a “holy ritual” they did in our backyard, where they “offered their body” to God under the moonlight. The description was… explicit. They didn’t sleep with anyone else (I don’t think?), but they wrote about feeling “ecstasy” and “union” during this act, like it was a sexual experience with a spiritual entity. I confronted Alex, and they didn’t deny it. They said they’ve been “in love with the Divine” and that this ritual was their way of “merging with the infinite.” They insisted it wasn’t cheating because it wasn’t human, but admitted they’d been distant because they felt “torn” between me and this “higher connection.” They said they still love me but need to “honor their truth.” I was floored. I felt betrayed, like I’d been replaced by… God? I told Alex I couldn’t handle this and moved out to a friend’s place. Last week, I filed for divorce. I don’t know if I’m overreacting—Alex says I’m being “narrow-minded” and that this is just their spirituality, not infidelity. But I feel like they crossed a line, emotionally and maybe even physically, in a way I can’t unsee. It’s not about religion; it’s about them prioritizing this “divine romance” over our marriage. My friends are split. Some say it’s not cheating since no one else was involved, and I should respect Alex’s beliefs. Others say it’s emotional infidelity, and the ritual stuff is a dealbreaker. I’m torn because I don’t want to shame Alex’s spirituality, but I feel like I’ve been cheated on by a concept. AITAH for filing for divorce?