I (F26) planned a 5 day group trip to the beach for my birthday out of the state. I live in the same city as everyone except one friend (F31) whom I hadn’t seen in about 4 months and a year prior to the last time. So obviously I was a little more excited to see her since I see everyone else daily and she is a really close friend of mine.

Anyway, trip comes around and our first full day is a boat charter to different islands and we’re all having a great time. She ended up having an extra fun time by flirting/ making out with the boat captain, which she’s single so go off queen. Toward the end of the boat activity I over hear her telling the captain that he could pick her up from the Airbnb since we “were not doing anything tn”. The plan after the boat was to go to the Airbnb, shower, go to dinner, and hang out. So she left with him, came back at 3am and was blowing up mine and my friends phone (who she was rooming with, they had just met) bc “she’s back and didn’t want to be alone in the room” (we were knocked out so didn’t answer).

I was a little bummed out bc I wish she could’ve just invited him to come out w the group instead of leaving us. Like we were literally going to go party the very next day at the exact same spot that she went to.

A little more context, the Airbnb we got ended up being in a very inconvenient location so we had to plan to leave 1 hr in advance to make it to all of the activities I had planned in our itinerary. Meaning we had to wake up around 6/7am to start getting ready.

Next day she’s too hung over and has everyone waiting in the car for her to be ready. So now we’re behind on schedule. And this continued on throughout the whole trip with her… 9 out of 10 times, she was the one we were waiting for. If she was ready and we were waiting on someone else, she would get out the car/ or leave the area we’d be in and wander around taking pictures and/or talking to random guys. So she’d make waiting for one person turn into waiting for 2 people. Cause we’d have to go find her to come back.

She would also leave the group to hang out with randoms. In example, on a beach day the group was all together catching waves and then there was her chopping it up w another group at the beach. Which good for her but she didn’t even make an effort to get to know or hang out with the group she came with!!!

The entire group was very annoyed by her and definitely got a bad first impression on her (for unnecessarily wandering around and seeming boy crazy), the only thing I could tell them is I swearrrr she’s not usually like this. But by the end of the trip, my bf (who has known her as long as I have) was pretty frustrated with her as well. Which says a lot bc he’s pretty patient.

I will say since everyone was in my ear bc she’s my friend I was a bit distant w her but still talking to her to keep the peace. On the last day, we were having brunch and she basically yelled from across the table asking if she did anything wrong to me bc she wasn’t sure what she did. I let her know we could talk about it later and she said she wanted to talk about it now. I just told her I wasn’t about to have the conversation in front of everyone and that’s kinda how it ended.

I want to say we left at an ok note?? She texted when her plane was taking off and said our good byes. I texted her 2 days after the trip when I was free for a phone call and haven’t heard back.

Idk how else to approach her cus I still want to be friends?? I mean she had been a good friend to me. I just kinda went into the conclusion that she’s not a good friend to travel with. So I will just avoid that.

And on another note, she hasn’t paid us for her portion of the trip which I’m kinda scared she won’t pay now. Idkkkkk AITAH? What do I even do about the money portion if she’s not trying to be cool w me anymore?! I figured we’d just talk about it and be good again lol .