My friend, “Lola”, invited me to go to her friend, “Coco’s” stag and doe. Now, I’m close with Lola, we hangout almost everyday. Every Sunday Lola invites her friends to her house for a get together and we all bring snacks and drinks, put a movie on and just hangout.

Now a few weeks ago, Coco came to one of these hangouts. Now she’s not a “regular” (no shade, she’s engaged and getting ready for her wedding) so it was my first and only time meeting her. We had a polite conversation, but that was it. Afterwards, Lola invited me to go to Coco’s stag and doe with her. I said yes, and e-transferred Coco, not realizing we could buy tickets at the door. They were 40$.

The money auto-deposited so there’s no cancellation I can do on my end. That was a number of weeks ago.

So last weekend, Coco’s sister messaged Lola asking her if she’d be able to come to their bachelorette party and if she could pitch in financially. The date of Coco’s bachelorette was the Saturday / weekend of Lola’s birthday. (It’d be the Thursday before). Lola politely said no she won’t be able to attend because she’ll be celebrating her birthday but hopes they have fun. The sister relays the message. Coco proceeds to tell Lola she’s being selfish and a bad friend because it’s “not a special birthday,” ; “birthdays happen every year but my bachelorette is once in a lifetime,” because Lola wasn’t attending. Lola is not in the bridal party.

That being said, Lola and coco fell out. But I’m out $40. Here’s where I’m asking aita: I messaged Coco saying I heard about the rift and it’s sad that this situation happened, but given that I was supposed to go with Lola and she’s no longer going, I asked if I could be paid back.

She tells me initially no because she’s paid for my seat and food (tickets sold at door though, so I said that just one person has to buy a ticket for her to be reimbursed then because if she’s paid per seat then… you pay.. per seat. If mines empty but gets filled? Idk)

I tell her that I know she has the capacity to pay me back. She tells me does but refuses on the principle of me being petty - I tell her I met her once and am closer with Lola but have nothing against her, I just want my money back because that’s a tank of gas and I’m not rolling in money. She tells me “no one is that broke. 40$ is a Starbucks date with your girlfriends. You’re doing this to be petty and I’m not playing childish games”. I straight up just ask to be paid back because I’m not going and there’s no beef, it’s just that it is money I need. I told her it was classless to insult someone for their financial situation. She ended up saying she’ll give me cash and in a patronizing tone said she’ll drop it off to me tomorrow.

AITAH for asking to be paid back?