By Smooth-Jeweler-6495 • Score: 1 • April 17, 2025 6:45 PM
So for context I’m 18F and my bestfriend lets call her Ella is Also 18F and her boyfriend is gonna be called Dean is also 18M. For some background, me and Ella have been bestfriends for 6 years and have been through everything together, but recently she got a boyfriend that she met off a dating app and they’ve been together for about a month. I was very skeptical because trying to find a serious partner off a dating app at our age isn’t very smart, and the previous guy she went on a date with ghosted her but that’s when our friendship started to go downhill, she went somewhere me and her were supposed to go for our first time together with him and lied to me about it and tried to blame him when it was in fact her idea to go behind my back. Fast forward like a month or so she’s talking to like 3 guys off tinder and likes this one dude which happens to be dean. For all of their dates she took him to places special to me that I introduced her to, and then also lied to me about it. So before they started dating me and her friendship started tanking even more, anyways a week later they start dating and she is seeing him 6 days a week for 5+ hours. Just to clear some things up, I’m not jealous she has a boyfriend and I understand she likes him and in that aspect I’m very happy for her, however my first issue was with the lies and then what ends up happening next. After barely calling me or texting me I texted her telling her I wasn’t going to sit here waiting for her to be done with him just to get her to hangout with me or even act interested in our relationship, she said she understood but then she starts calling out and trying to put blame on me for my relationship, I’ve been with my boyfriend 20M for a year, and what’s she’s referencing is how when me and him first got together I was hanging out with him more than her, partially because our work schedules didn’t align so when I had free time, she didn’t. I also pointed out how I still managed to call her everyday and play video games almost every single day with her, because my issue is her lack of balancing the both of us and is instead only focusing on her relationship with him. I understand that’s now an important person in her life, which is obviously okay but what isn’t okay is the lack of care for our friendship. That’s when I started another conversation telling her I will not be friends with her any longer if this keeps up, seeing as in middle school whenever she got a boyfriend similar things happened so this is not a first time thing, along with the fact whenever she has a girlfriend she doesn’t act like this. She then tells me that she doesn’t want our friendship to end and will try to hangout with me and attempt to actually be a friend to me, she hangs out with me once and we had fun and then to nobodies surprise … she goes back to how she was acting, she said she’d hang out with me and instead she’d be at his house, on top of making excuses to get off the phone with me just to end up at his house, and to top it off she made her boyfriend buy a video game that I bought for her to play with me, yup u guessed it, she keeps playing with him rather than me. I got fed up after over a month of this treatment from someone whose supposed to be my bestfriend and blocked her on Sunday, I only blocked her on text so we have all of these other apps and she still hasn’t reached out to me, which is making me believe she really doesn’t care about our friendship anymore and it’s obvious she isn’t going change unless they break up. Even after I communicated clearly about what she was doing and how it made me feel, AITAH?
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