Me (22M) and her (24F) have known each other our whole lives (we share some family) but only in the last 2 years have been really good friend,best friends.

So I do have to say that I am not super social guy,I do like hanging out with friends but not for long cause my social battery gets low,and I believe she knows that cause as I said we know each other our whole lives.

We had great moments in our friendship,but things would get very overwhelming for me quickly.In the beginning out of her boredom at work she would call me 10 times a day literally,and most of the calls were like 1-2 minutes long,not even a proper conversation.It was annoying cause no matter if I wanted to relax or if I was in the middle of the something it would get interrupted,but I always answered the calls cause I felt bad for not doing it.I was (still am) unemployed so she maybe thought it was okay to do it.It was a short term job so after some time those annoying 10 calls a day stopped.

Since then she was mostly unemployed or had a job with flexible hours working whenever she wanted,she didn’t stop indulging in her boredom.She loves walking a lot or riding a bike,they are mostly long sessions of activity and again during those she gets bored and then calls me expecting to keep her company the whole time.Idk about you but I personally prefer music or a podcast to listen to while on a walk and don’t expect from anyone to keep me company the whole time,again she didn’t respect my time probably cause I am unemployed and have free time on my hands,all cause she was bored.

Even with some short walks,going to the nearby grocery store or a 10-15 minute walk it’s always her calling me out of her boredom not respecting my time and had a nerve to most of the time just finish the call,sometimes when I am in the middle of the story or sentence,cause she “can’t talk” while being inside.I felt like a puppet that was there for those 10+ minutes or even less just to serve her boredom or whatever that gets shut down after she reaches her destination.

Also what annoyed me was if she’s with someone,like grandparents or cousins or whatever,she wouldn’t answer my calls like she’s forbidden to do it (she’s not).Why is it so hard to pick up a phone and say hey and ask if everything is okay and say that you’re busy right now and will call me later.And if I hear the call I would always answer no matter with whom I am and no matter where I am.

I brushed over this things,thought that they are just small stupid stuff that I shouldn’t be mad about.They were annoying but didn’t mention anything cause I am not a type to argue or fight with friends.

I was a therapist friend in our friendship.I do have anxiety depression and some type of OCD so it has not been easy mentally for me.She has her own trauma,and has been going through mental struggles too our whole friendship,mostly because of the two situationships she had that she obsessed with and got depressed about cause they were not something more than that,and also some family struggles and trauma.

I was always there for her (mind u we would talk everyday on facetime for hours when we don’t get to hang out in person and also facetime on those days too),I listened and gave advice,tried to help her and uplift her,did my best wanting her to get out of slump.There were numerous situations where she was really down.I on the other hand am kind of guy who usually if things are not that important when looking at the bigger picture try not to bother others with it and deal it by myself.So when I really ask for help and advice and say I’m not doing good it’s something important.This is where the things in our friendship started to drift for me.One day I was really overwhelmed and feeling awful mentally,I texted her saying how I don’t know if I can do this anymore and how I wanted to go to psychiatrist to get some meds prescribed so I can finally do better,she asked what happened and I told her and she literally said “Well you have to change something”.I was speechless,I already knew that,she didn’t listen to me and was not there for me the way I needed her to be and the way I was there for her.And as a cherry on top she kinda disregarded my problems and talked about her problem which by the way was how she doesn’t know if she’ll go to the pool with her cousin cause it might rain.The time and place was not right to say that.I feel like she’s a bit self-centered and a bit selfish.

Being a fool I also brushed over that,and something similar happened where she told me that I need to change something again,alongside everything other mentioned above.

What led me to finally end the friendship was one day while at was my grandma’s place I had an argument with my mom and grandma so I left her house,missed the bus it was Sunday so the next one was in like 40 minutes so I walked and was really overwhelmed and needed someone to talk to.I called my ex best friend she didn’t answer.I texted her and didn’t get a response until the next hour when I was already home.She texted me said how she was with her cousins and family that she haven’t seen in some time.I was like “ok” and she asked me why I answered like that and I told her cause this kind of situations happen all the time.Then she said that she was holding a baby and that I am making a fuss and that I also don’t answer every call and she doesn’t make a drama/problem out of it.This is where I knew it ended cause even if I was in the wrong and I was the asshole why the hell can’t I be the source of drama for once,that was her role in many situations and now when it’s my turn to maybe be that I don’t have rights to do that.Later I found out that she lied about not hearing my call that day,she saw it but didn’t answer cause she was indeed holding a baby.

I blocked her number and blocker her on WhatsApp,but other social medias we were still following each other.She never decided to reach me on those and try to talk about the whole situation,I didn’t reach out cause I was mad at her.And I know for a fact that she thought (don’t know if still is) that I ended the whole friendship over just an unanswered call which makes me think how little she thought of me the whole friendship that she thought that thats was the whole reason for it to end.This all happened on January 5th.

Oh also cause she’s friends with my sister she came by two times to our house,first time shortly after the fight and second time a few days ago.I am not proud of how I handled the situation and probably should have a conversation about it.

So AITAH?