So this situation happened about 2 weeks ago and me and my mom are talking again but there's still a bit of tension between us. Also reddit can be pretty skeptical but everything I say is 100 percent true

My (16M) mother (42F) has a pretty big drinking problem. Her last boyfriend who she still in contact with and had a abusive relationship with with each other was also an alcoholic (The type to find a job and lose it in under 2 weeks due to being drunk the night before) who fuelled her alcoholism to the point where they were drinking practically every other night. They've had the police called on them several times due to yelling at each other while drunk and other reasons I don't feel like disclosing on reddit.

Her ex has been out the picture for at least 3-4 months now but her alcolism hasn't changed much. I found a part time job that I've had since September of 2024 which I enjoy but it gets tiring since its after school every day and I only get weekends off. She constantly asks for gas money which I've only recently refused to give her because I caught her buying more alcohol at the gas station and lying about it. I work hard for my money and was fine helping with gas at first, but I hate fuelling her addictions.

About 2 weeks ago I was starting spring break but due to my line of work ( I'm an after school counselor for kids) I had longer shifts during my break (9-5) so really I didn't get to have a spring break. I told my mom in advance and she knew this. The first Monday after work I come home and she's nowhere to be found. I tend to the house ( walk the dog, feed the dog and cat, wash dishes and take out the trash) and realize she took my ps5 while I was at work. I was pissed at her because how is it fair I have to do all the chores in the house while your out doing whatever you want (Probably just drinking) but I go to bed as normal because I have work in the morning.

After about 5 hours of sleep she busts into my room at about 3:30 am and takes my phone immediately and I ask why she just took my phone because I need it to wake me up in the morning for work. She just looks at me with that drunken look in her eye that fills me with rage just thinking about it and tells me to go get the dog from outside.

I hesitate a little bit before going outside shirtless and barefoot calling for our dog outside in 30-40 degree weather. He finally comes in and I wonder why she just made me do that, at the very least she could've gone to go look for him herself but she decides to wake me up in the middle of my sleep knowing I have work in the morning and tell me to get the dog that she let out in the first place. I know how she gets when she's drunk so I just Grey rock her and follow her orders so I can hopefully get my phone back because that's all I'm worried about.

After bringing in the dog I'm practically begging her for my phone back so I can go to work on time the next day. First she tells me she'll wake me up in the morning and i dont need it (which was a lie, she was asleep when i left out the door). Then she told my to call my phone so I can find it. I didn't know if she was toying with me or she genuinely forgot where she hid my phone. I grab her phone off the table and ask her for her password and she gives my random numbers which just completely pushes me over the edge and I smash her phone three times on the ground. I find her second phone on the front porch which I actually know how to unlock because I used it while my current phone was being repaired and call my phone.

She hid my phone underneath two different boxes of clothes in her room which I just thrown in the floor to get my phone. I went to sleep that night and went to work without speaking a word to her.

I come home from work exhausted and she's on the phone with her ex and my grandmother. She's showing her broken and smashed up phone to her exe saying stuff like "look what (me) did to my phone and room" and " he did this because I took his game yesterday" which couldn't be further than the truth. I just ignore them and go to my room and blast music in my headphones until I fall asleep.

I know I shouldn't have done this and I deeply regret it and I've apologize multiple times for doing this. I let my anger get the best of me and I understand there are better ways of venting anger. It may be hard to believe but I am a very calm person and people at school and work can vouch for me. I just don't understand what overcame me that day, I don't think it defines me as a person. Overall, AITAH?