I (26 F) was briefly seeing this guy (29M). We were friends with benefits at first and almost blossomed into more but there’s something I just can’t see past. This guy (let’s call him Jason), had gastric bypass surgery about a year ago. As a side effect, his stomach harbors a lot of excess gas which leads to him burping and passing gas alot. I’m just one of those people that cannot stand hearing any kind of bodily function from someone else. Chewing, burping, farting, etc. Yes, I know it’s natural and I know it’s human but he does it excessively. Not only do I find it gross but it makes me feel awkward.

When we’re together he does it excessively and I know he can’t control it but it’s such turn off for me. He complains about me not kissing him as much anymore but it’s so hard to kiss someone when you’re grossed out by their constant burping. He also vomits fairly often because if he eats too fast, it’ll cause him to throw up. Between that and the burping it just makes it very hard to want to kiss him.

I guess I didn’t notice how excessive it was right away because we would only see each other to hook up and then a majority of the time we’d communicate via text. But after spending more time with him outside of sex I’m noticing this. I feel guilty because I’m breaking things off with him over something that he can’t control but I also can’t help being turned off by certain things.

Should I be honest with him about why I’m breaking it off or just give him a BS reason?