So, this is a bit of a mess, and I’m honestly torn about whether I did the right thing. Here’s the situation:

I (27F) have been with my boyfriend, Mark (29M), for about three years. We’ve had our ups and downs, but I thought we were in a really good place. Recently, my best friend, Rachel (28F), got married, and I was her maid of honor. It was a huge deal for her, and I was super excited to be by her side.

The wedding was beautiful, everything went smoothly, and Mark was with me as my plus-one. We were having a great time dancing, laughing, just enjoying the night.

But then, during the reception, Mark did something completely unexpected. So, Rachel and her new husband were dancing their first dance, and Mark was acting kind of off, which I chalked up to him just being nervous. Then, out of nowhere, he pulls me aside and says he wants to “talk” to me privately.

We step out to a quieter area, and he’s suddenly telling me that he doesn’t feel “ready for this kind of commitment.” Like, we’ve been talking about getting engaged for a while, and I was under the impression we were on the same page, but now he’s telling me that he doesn’t think he’s ready for marriage right there, at my best friend’s wedding.

I try to stay calm and ask him what he’s talking about, and he says it’s not just about me, but that he’s not sure about the whole “forever” thing. He’s just “having doubts” in general. This was coming out of nowhere, and I was shocked.

I told him I needed some space and walked back inside to be with my friends. I honestly just felt embarrassed at that point. It wasn’t the right time or place for that conversation, and it really put a damper on the night. Later on, I tried to talk to him about it again, but he kind of just brushed it off, saying it wasn’t a big deal and that he’d “sort himself out.”

Long story short, after thinking about it for a few days, I ended things with him. I told him that if he wasn’t sure about us, I couldn’t keep putting myself in a situation where I’m always uncertain of where we stand.

Now, some of my friends are telling me I overreacted, that maybe he just got caught up in the moment or was feeling anxious about the future. But I don’t know this felt like a huge red flag for me. It wasn’t just the timing, but the fact that he had doubts he didn’t bring up until then.

So, AITA for ending things after that?