I (24F) was in a relationship with (let's call him J 23M). At the start of are relationship I noticed his behaviors he would drink and get very abusive. He would threaten to hurt me and would call me nasty names.

One day we where at his dad's house watching the game when he started drinking and arguing with me. We got into this big fight and he hit me ( it wasn't the first time he laid his hands on me) him and his dad started arguing, his dad told him he should never hit a woman and to get out his house. I started crying on the floor when his older brother Mike (25M) came in and ask if I was okay.

He picked me up from the floor and I started breaking down telling him how this wasn't the first time he did this. I ended up falling asleep in his arms and later woke up to us laying together, I got up as fast as possible and got my stuff and was about to leave when his dad stopped me. He said something that would change my life.

He told me "I think you're dating the wrong son" I looked at him in confusion. He said "I see the way you guys look at each other, I wouldn't blame you for leaving my son to get with his older brother said his dad." Im not going to lie Mike was an amazing guy he would always listen to me rant about random stuff he would make sure I was okay, I never noticed how much we had in common or how much I felt safe with him.

Later that night I went home and thought about what his dad said. I didn't want leave J for his older brother but at the same time I couldn't handle all the abuse he put me through. I thought for a while and finally decided that I would break up with J.

I called him and told him that it was over. A few mouths went by and I started talking to Mike, turns out Mike had always liked me but never said anything because I was with his brother. We finally got together and I'm the happiest I've ever been but I still wonder, AITAH for leaving him for his older brother?