Throw-away time. I will keep this short.

I (23) was dating this woman (24)for 6 months and our personalities were ultimately not compatible.

She had recently been in a car accident (then another one a week later) that caused some bone bruising so she had been dealing with insurance, PT and the trouble of finding a new car.

However, once the decision was taken that I didn’t think we were compatible, I ended things quickly and cleared off to give her space.

I have been in too many relationships where someone would drag it out while knowing that they weren’t happy. I’ve been in relationships where someone extends false hope for reconciliation and I wanted her to experience none of those, as this was her first real relationship and those things generally suck.

She later organized a phone call with me where she explained in detail every reason I was the ahole. She says because it was unexpected and during a hard time. I tried to explain my reasoning but she just said I was “justifying my ahole behavior”. I told her I didn’t want to give her as much as 1 hug that wasn’t fully meaningful.

Maybe I ATA, I was trying to keep her from the drawn out pain of a dying relationship. What do you think? If your partner no longer saw a future with you, would you want them to tell you immediately and break up or fake it until things eventually fell apart?

Thanks for reading and thank you for your feedback.