i (20f) and my boyfriend (20m) have been together for around a year and a half now. we are moving in together in may. we are both very excited and have been fixing up the house together. he is a wonderful boyfriend and i love him so much. he is perfect in almost every way. extremely caring, gentle and patient with me. i have diagnosed bpd and sometimes that can cause stress in the relationship, but specifically on me. i have been having the same problem since january. i have noticed he seems to be putting in less effort than i have. sometimes it feels like he doesn’t want to talk to me or is purposely ignoring me. i know that he is active on his phone but he will not respond for sometimes up to several hours. he also does not respond to any tik toks/instagram reels i send him. this might sound chronically online or shallow but i am sending these to him because it reminds me of him/something i think he might find funny/ or is a video expressing how much i love him etc etc. we used to send each other many things on these platforms and it was a nice way to share things with each other. we see each other only on the weekends and he claims that he “wants to save the videos for then to watch it with me” that would be fine if he was never on the apps, but i know he is. i can see that he is either active on them/reposting things every few days but just not responding to me. he never sends me anything either. he also has 2-3 day stints of being off of work, and because of that i would expect him to maybe want to talk to me more. but he ignores me just as much then, even though i know he has free time. this makes me very upset and sometimes i just feel flat out unloved. i brought it up to him and expressed that it made me sad. i told him that i understand we are both in school and work and that i don’t expect him to be on his phone all the time, but that i like to have at least one good conversation a day to feel connected. i told him if he wants his space or plans to do things for long periods of time then that’s completely fine but it would be nice if he communicated that to me so that i don’t feel ignored. he said he was sorry and that he would change it, and then continued to ignore me for hours that same night when he went bowling with his friends. he is continuing to do the thing that makes me upset (ignoring me). i can’t tell if i am overreacting because of my bpd making my emotions feel much bigger than they should be, or if this “upsetness” is justified. please help any opinions are appreciated.