I am a foreigner who came to America on an assignment. But I met a woman and started a family getting sidetracked from the assignment. Keep in mind this was around 20 years ago. I recently remembered why I came here and I started to refocus. Now I have been keeping this secret from my family and when my son found out why I was here he got extremely upset. When I asked him to join me he started talking about the importance of freedom and human lives all of that childish nonsense. He then asked me if I cared about his mothers life which I responded by saying I thought of her as more of a pet rather than a traditional significant other. That really set him off and he basically said he didn't give a fuck about our culture and started to fist fight me. Eventually I had no choice but to retaliate and fight back. When I left I initially believed I was in the right but I have recently been rethinking my choices. So I just want to know AITAH because... I think I miss my wife.