Hello! I just need some unbiased perspectives about all of this, because I feel like people I know are taking sides when I ask them, and I want to be fair to my bf because he's the most wonderful thing in my life right now.

My bf (27M) of two years currently lives with his parents and has lived with them his whole life. I (24F) live with roommates, and I have some financial help from my parents on rent (which I am very grateful and privileged to have). Bf is a very hard worker and makes above the average salary in our city and after getting some financial advice from his parents when he was younger, his life plan has always been to live with them and save up until he can afford to buy a house. I appreciate the sentiment and how hard he works to budget for himself. He even helped me learn how to budget my own money (I work part-time while going to school full-time, but I am nearing the end of my current schooling and starting to interview for full-time positions. I want to be financially autonomous, but I'm also thinking possibly about a grad school)!

He wants to apply for a 4 year-long graduate program this year near his parents' house and continue his living situation. I adore visiting him and doing sleepovers at his house and his parents are AWESOME, but I ran the numbers and I feel worried. He would get into grad school next fall, spend four years getting his phd, and then probably need a year or two to establish himself in a position and start making enough money to even begin to consider buying a house. He refuses big-time to rent at all in his life so that means that I would move in with him in 6-7 years... maybe more...?

It's been two years already and I don't want to pressure at all, but also I feel sad at the idea that I would finally be living with the love of my life when I'm 30-31 years old. Also, I would need to continue sleeping in his childhood room until then feels a little silly.

I'm moving into a new place in a couple months myself and I've got friends who are taking the living together jump too, and it brings up these feelings of wrongness in me.

We argue about it sometimes and I try to not be emotional about these things, but I end up doing it anyways. He just told me tonight to stop bringing up wanting to live with him and that it makes him feel bad. I feel terrible for putting him in this position and I want to find a compromise or just be told straight up if I'm wrong. To be fair, I'm pretty young and I don't understand finance and saving for a house like he does.

AITA? I love my guy a lot and I want to make this work.